Dyslexia Therapy with Fidelity
Fidelity is defined as “faithfulness to a person, cause, or belief, demonstrated by continuing loyalty and support.” Many parents have the best intentions and want their children to be successful. They are loyal and supportive of their children, but are they always faithful to the cause? Regretfully the answer is no.
I have heard a lot of excuses since I became a therapist such as “it’s just too far to drive”, “ I just can’t afford it”, “my child has a headache”, “I can’t find a ride”, “my kid has a super head lice, that I just can’t get rid of”, “we have a flat”, “I’m out of gas”, “my kid wants to go to a camp or go visit someone”, and “I forgot”. Now you may be thinking some of these excuses sound legit and in a normal situation you would be right, but several of these excuses came from just one parent. Some parents decide it’s too far after only 3 lessons. Some parents believe when their student complains of a headache just before class, that they really do have a headache; when actually they’re just trying to get out of class. Some parents want the therapist to hold a spot and then only bring they’re child 1-2 times a week.
When my classes first began, I told my parents consistency is the key to growth and that your student will get out of the class what he/she puts into it. Periodically, I pass out very light homework. I tell the students to practice, get a parent signature, and you will get a sticker for being proactive of your own learning. They do not get punished for not doing their homework, just a simple reminder that they will get out of this class what they put into it. Unfortunately most students do not do the work. In fact, they blame their parents for not getting it done or they say they forgot. They lose their folders or the folder stays in the car and only comes into class with no effort being shown that they had did the work. The students that put forth more effort seem to grow faster and have better attendance records.
In a dyslexia school setting therapy would be given daily. In an after school program, it is given three days a week. It is imperative that the student attend regularly and does practice outside of class. The more effort a student puts into it now the faster they will grow and the sooner you will no longer have to pay for therapy. I understand that life happens, things come up, and you just can’t get the student to class. However from a therapist’s point of view it is disappointing when you get a student who has so much potential and learns things quickly, but he/she has missed a lot of classes. Each student has the potential to attend 9 to 12 sessions in a 30 day period, but I have had students attend maybe only 4 to 6 of those classes in a 30 day period. I have also had students quit or make excuse for their attendance for 1-2 months in a row and then come back. The parent who eventually leave always say they know I’ve made a difference and find me a blessing and all I can think is….if they had attended regularly than your child would be an even stronger reader.
I don’t like losing my students until I feel like I have made a crucial impact on their life. In order for me to do that they must attend class regularly, practice outside of class, and finish the program.